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Your resilience WILL create quantum leaps

• Hayley Lloyd

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What if the key to skyrocketing your business lies in building emotional resilience and inner authority? 

One of my clients whose persistent hard work led to her Instagram reel going viral, boosting her follower count from a few hundred to a remarkable 8,000 in just a week. This story wasn't an overnight miracle, but the result of months of skill-building and perseverance. 

In this episode explores the concept of quantum leaps in business, revealing how these breakthroughs often follow tough periods of self-doubt and discomfort. 

By tuning in, you'll understand the importance of patience, inner authority, and pushing through challenging times to achieve lasting success.


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Hello everyone, welcome back to the podcast. I hope you're having an amazing day, because I feel like I have lived about a thousand lives in the past two weeks and I am feeling. I'm feeling good. I'm excited to expand on what I mean by all of that in a couple of weeks, when it's officially all settled. This is an ad hoc episode, but I think it's a really important one that we discuss, because I was just having a conversation with a client and this client sent me a message a couple of days ago and she was like one of my reels is going viral and like her Instagram is suddenly blowing up. You know, she went from having like 100 to 200 followers when she first came into the house to now she's got about 8,000 and it's been like over the course of a week. I think she gained like 5,000 followers in three days and on the back end of that, she's having people book in calls through her booking calendar. She's having people drop into her inbox asking for information on how they can work together.

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This is the quantum leap that a lot of people talk about. A lot of people are waiting for that one time, for something to go viral, and up until that point, it can feel like it's not working, and I want to demonstrate that by reading the message, the last message that she actually just sent me, the last sentence. She said I almost gave up, but I'm really glad that I didn't. Now, this is important because in business building, there is going to be periods of time where it feels like it's not working at any level. It doesn't matter what level, and there are so many content creators coming into the space all the time, so we are competing for attention. A new account will know like the initial struggle to get seen, to feel the energy to show up and be motivated every single day, when it feels like no one's listening, or for someone that is an established entrepreneur that has already had huge success, to feel their engagement change or the way that their audience is interacting with them to shift, and it creates a lot of doubt. Now, what that doubt can either do is call you to rise or make you quit. And this is the interesting thing about quantum leaping, which people don't really talk about. Quantum leaps don't just happen after night. This client that I'm speaking about, she didn't just decide one day to show up, start posting, and the first reel she did popped off. Oh no, this client has been inside of the house since the beginning of the year, since January, and she has been working on skill building, which is a really important aspect of building authority and creating a sustainable business that can ultimately scale you to 10 to 30K months months, which is what the house is there to do. What we are doing is teaching you the skills. We're helping you to build the program, we're helping you to position yourself, and then you go about making content so that you can grow your account and ultimately sign new people into your container. And if you've already had that success, then it's about elevating what it currently is that you are doing, so you can speak to more high end buyers so that you can expand your reach, you can expand the amount of people that you have in your one-to-many containers and elevate your income to 60 to 100k, wherever you want to go.

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But for many, many people, there can be periods of time where it feels like nothing's happening, where it feels like everything you try isn't working, and you need to have the emotional resilience to be able to hold that. The biggest reason that people quit business early is because they don't give it enough of a chance. Some people do two months of posting all the time not anything go viral, no one reaching out, and then they give up because they say it's not working. It's not that it's not working, you just haven't given it enough time. Sometimes, really incredible things come from slow, steady progress. It comes from learning the foundational skills, implementing the foundational skills until one day. It takes one reel, it takes one person, it takes one moment to change everything, and that is what the quantum leap is. What people don't talk about with quantum leaps is all of the planning and all of the work and all of the suffering and the discomfort that you have gone through to get yourself to that moment of the quantum leap. So on the outside, people are looking at the quantum leap being like, wow, that's so amazing, I want that right now, and not realizing what it can take.

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It takes a huge amount of inner authority and resilience to show up, even when it feels like it's not working, to commit to the vision that you have, even if you aren't sure how it's going to pan out, even if you aren't seeing the results that you want right now. You've got to have this mindset of. I expect in the future that it is coming irregardless. So I can't fail. It doesn't matter how many times I launch, it doesn't matter how many times I post, because I know that it's coming in the future and what you need to do in that time is handle your human, and this is the reason that building your inner authority is probably one of the most important, crucial things that you can do as an entrepreneur, because it doesn't matter whether you have been in this game for three months, for one year, five years or 10 years.

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There are going to be times where it tests you, where the market does something weird or an angle that previously used to work no longer works, when something happening in your client container kicks off and you need to manage the energy of that and manage your human, or whether it feels like the Instagram algorithm has changed or the market has changed. These things are going to happen and these things, for most people, are going to create a human reaction, because we're humans we're all human. We all have this innate human part of us that has feelings. We have an ego and that ego wants to protect us and it protects us by triggering us. It triggers us into trauma responses, the fight or flight response, and a lot of people. They get triggered, they feel discomfort and, instead of getting curious and learning to lean into the discomfort, they lean away from it. They see the discomfort as a reason why they shouldn't continue, as opposed to an invitation for them to grow.

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Because here's the thing if you are looking for an easy life, you aren't going to find it in business. And I say that with so much love, because business owners that really really make it, business owners that make consistent income, are some of the most resilient people emotionally that I know. I have so much respect for you If you are currently showing up and doing the thing, irregardless of the outcome, and you are dealing with all of the ups and the downs that are coming up and you are not using that discomfort that comes up as a reason for you to quit. I have so much respect for you, so much respect If you are managing the polarity of life with owning a business, with scaling a business, if you have gone through difficult times and you have come back up again. You have stood back up and you have kept on going. I have so much respect for you because that is hard but it is a part of business and it is a part of business that a lot of people haven't learned to do, because corporate jobs do not require us to have this level of inner authority and resilience and strength than it does to be an entrepreneur, to do your own thing and especially to have a personal brand. The reason that I include building inner authority in the way that I teach you to grow your businesses and especially to sell high end, is because I know the impact that the inner world has on your external results.

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If you want to magnetize people into your world, you are going to have to steady the storm when it gets hard. You are going to have to find that neutrality even amongst the chaos. You're going to need to get back up after you failed, after you've been judged, after something didn't work. At every single moment there is something New level, new devil is what I call it, and no one's immune to it. We just get better at dealing with it. We start to accept oh okay, there's going to be a trigger somewhere along the way and that's my shit. I have to clear that up. And the universe always gives us exactly what we're ready for, exactly what we're a match for.

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So you know, if you're in your business, you're experiencing the same things over and over and over again, the same triggers. There is something there for you. There is an opportunity for you to rise. There is an opportunity for you to grow, because, the more that you can lean into discomfort, feel the fear and do it anyway, feel the pain, the embarrassment, whatever that emotion is that comes up at the various different parts of your business journey, and do it anyway. That is a skill, and it is the skill that will dictate if your business makes it or not.

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So in the house, you're going to learn all of the strategy that you need to. You're going to learn how to become a master marketer. You're going to learn how to create luxury offers. You are going to learn how to build in-demand authority. You're going to learn how to create luxury offers. You are going to learn how to build in-demand authority. You're going to learn all of those things. Those are the strategic things, but you are also going to learn to become a more resilient human, so that if, for a period of time, it feels like it's not working, you can dig deep. You can dig deep and you can be like I am still going to go. I am still going to do this. You expect that it is going to happen in the future. You aren't entitled to the success. Let's create the difference here. Entitled to the success is a level of. If it's not here, you start to feel a victim about it. If it didn't come when you wanted to, then you start to feel a victim about it. That's entitlement. We aren't entitled to success none of us are but I expect success and that means that I can't fail, because there can be things that will be disappointing for me. There will be things that hurt when they happen, when a launch doesn't plan out, but all of those things can go on to create resilience for us. They can go on to help us become a better business owner in the future.

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I started an entire business two businesses back in 2016 to 2017, roughly and they both failed. They both took me to my knees. I learned so much about myself and I ended up retreating back to corporate. My inner authority at that point was not high enough to be able to hold or sustain a business. It wasn't high enough for me to be able to deal with the daily potential judgment, the risk of failure, the potential rejection, the fear of pressure, the fear of change, the fear of responsibility. I didn't have the inner authority or the resilience to deal with those things, and so when failure happened and my launch didn't go to plan and I ended up showing up to absolutely no one, it crushed me and I ended up giving up.

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On the other amounts of home runs, I think it's in baseball also has the most amount of failures. He holds the record for both. Now, this book was written many, many years ago, so I don't know whether that is still accurate, but just think about that the person who is the most successful is also the person who has failed the most. That means, in order to become successful, we have to be okay with failing. We have to be okay with the discomfort, more specifically, that failing can potentially bring up, and we've got to be able to deal with the ego and the fear that comes up when you're showing up and it feels like people aren't listening or it's not working, or the frustration of wanting things to happen. Now. What I'm really talking about all of this is being able to handle hard emotions.

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This society has taught us over and over and over again to suppress our emotions. We grew up in societies that did not give us a safe space to be angry, to feel rage, to feel sadness. We got told to cheer up Like. When I was growing up, I was constantly told to have a stiff upper lip, to not be too expressive, to be quieter. You know, I'm British, so British people are naturally smaller in expression compared to Americans. We have naturally been taught to be more demure, whatever it is you want to say, and so that means that we don't express as loudly sometimes.

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So a lot of us grow up with this feeling and belief of it's not safe for me to feel, it's actually not good for me to experience bad emotions. So it means that when we experience discomfort in our business which is going to happen, there is literally not a route for you to go down, especially if you want to build something big and sustainable You're going to experience uncomfortable emotions. If you have that belief, you're going to feel like something's wrong when you experience that discomfort, when the very nature of being a human being is to feel. We have come here to feel, to experience, and my belief is we have come here to transmute our pain and turn it into our purpose. But if we aren't prepared to feel the pain, if we do everything we can to avoid the pain. If we do everything we can to avoid the fear, we can't ever grow. We can't ever step into our full dharma if we aren't prepared to lean into the pain. Our pain is the biggest discomfort. I know you've probably heard me said this a thousand times, but the reason we go to the gym is to build muscle. But initially it hurts. After you've done your weights and you go back home and over the next couple of days you are achy. You can barely walk. There is a discomfort, it doesn't feel good, but you know that you are building something. And it's the same with emotional resilience. We have just been taught that it's wrong that we should try to avoid these bad emotions, when the bad emotions don't mean that it's wrong. It means it's potential. It means there is potential for you to grow.

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I know a lot of you are potentially thinking about coming into the house at the moment and there can be elements of fear around. Is this the right decision? Do I trust myself enough to do this? Am I going to be able to commit to it fully? Maybe I should wait for the perfect time, whatever it is for you, but I just want to remind you that there is no such time as a perfect time, and often when I ask people like, what do you really want, they talk into this desire of I have this desire to create something big, to create impact, and they want it so much, with so much passion. I want you to think about right now what do you want? How much do you want it?

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But then there's this other feeling, and that feeling can sometimes be doubt, fear, discomfort about taking that next step, making that investment, whatever that next move is, and it stops you in your tracks. And so, suddenly, desire isn't leading you, fear is leading you. But the problem with that is, if fear leads you your entire life, you'll end up nowhere. Fear is here to protect us and fear ultimately keeps us small, and there's got to be a time at some point where we say enough, no more giving into fear. I'm going to listen to my desire, and my desire is pulling me over here.

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Sometimes we need to listen to that because there is no investment that has ever been made that has been guaranteed. Like if you speak to any wealthy person, you talk about their investment portfolio. Did they know that their gambles quote, unquote their educated gambles were going to pay off? No, they didn't. They invested before they knew what the outcome was going to be. And that's something that, as entrepreneurs, we are going to have to do, because, as entrepreneurs, we are the product. When you are creating a product-based business, you have to invest in the product first in order to get the product out to the market, so there's usually a down payment for you to make. But when we are a service-based business, we don't need to do that. But then we are the product, so we need to grow ourselves.

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In order to market, in order to sell, in order to create programs, you need to build that full stack set of skills that I speak about regularly. If you don't have the full stack set of skills, it will be hard to build a sustainable, resilient business. You need resilient inner authority. You need a clear, incredible product that you love, a luxury service. You need in-demand authority and you need elevated marketing. You need all of these skills, and they are all skills that you can learn, including inner authority.

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The story that I tell you about this client is to show that things do eventually move. If you do it long enough, you will be successful. You cannot fail, but you may need to go through a period of what the fuck am I doing? Or making scary moves and taking big jumps and trusting yourself before you can see what's on the other side in order to get there. People may see this client result and think, wow, I can't wait for that to happen to me. She's so lucky. She wasn't lucky. She has showed up and experimented. She's shown up every single day. She has lent in for coaching and she has consistently been trying, even when it's felt like it's not working. That's where this result came from, and if you listen to most success stories, including my own, that is where ours came from too.

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Quantum results. They look like they're overnight successes, but they're not. They are months, if not years, of emotional resilience building, of going through the shitter whilst it feels like nothing is working or working out, until eventually, one day it just does. At one point, everything is cringe, no one takes you seriously and everyone's laughing at you, until one day it kicks off and then everyone's asking you how you did it. This literally happened for me. People used to share around my stories and talk about how cringe I was for showing up in the way that I was and for putting myself out there. People laughed at me and then they asked for me to coach them, which I denied.

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So if you take away anything from this episode, please let it be. You need to work on your inner resilience. This journey, business owning, does not work. It does not happen if you don't have the resilience inside of you to weather the storms whatever the storms are and there may well be many If you don't have the ability to hold fear and take action anyway, if you don't have the inner conviction to back yourself that you can make this work, you will remain stationary forever, potentially forever. You could be waiting for the rest of your life.

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So, whatever decision you are waiting on right now, whatever move you were stopping yourself from making, whatever rule you were creating up in your head, wherever you are right now on your journey, if it feels like things aren't working, just remember this is entrepreneurship. It's not straightforward, otherwise everyone would do it. If you wanna create 50, 100k months, you are gonna need to build that inner authority. You are going to need to become so okay with discomfort that anything could happen and you know how to just feel the feels, hold it and keep on moving, because that's the only difference between people at the beginning and people that have been doing this for 10 years, the people at the end 10 years. Those the people. They feel it still, but they just keep on moving. They don't let it stop them, and so you need to learn to not let discomfort stop you or hold you back. So that is my mic drop moment for today.

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I hope that you guys enjoyed this episode. If you did, please make sure that you give me a message and just remember that you are strong, you are courageous, you are brave, you can do whatever it is that you want to. Anyone can, because we are human beings and we have hearts filled with passion and drive and vigor. The only thing that we need to do is get out of our own way. We need to keep on showing up, even when it feels like it's not working. We need to be okay with feeling uncomfortable, because we're going to feel it heaps, and just remember that you always can If people have done it before you.

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Whatever you're going through, you can do it now, and if you want to learn to build your inner authority with me, I invite you to come into the house of authority.

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The prices are going to be increasing on the 22nd of September and the doors are going to be completely closing until 2025 on the 29th of September the very back end of this month. So, if you have been on the fence, you want to build that inner resilience. You want to become the person that attracts high end clients and can weather the storm and can build your business to wherever you want it to go. That's what you're going to learn to do inside of the house, and I really hope to hear from you soon. You can actually book in a small call with me. If you are on the fence, I will leave all of the information below so that you can book in a time. This is only for people that are thinking about joining the house. If you are on the fence, this call is an opportunity for you. If, however, you would prefer to have a conversation with me in the DMs, just send me a Instagram message or voicemail at Hayley June Lloyd and we can have a chat around if this is the right space for you. I'm sending you guys so much love and I